Raise your hand if you’ve ever been on the receiving-end of judgement during your self-love journey…
During our panel discussion about self-love and mental health at The Women’s Empowerment Expo recently, a question was posed on how we deal with judgement from others when it comes to making our well-being a priority.
My answer was simple: I don’t care what people have to say about my journey.
However, it took a while to get to that point, because here’s the unfortunate truth—when you begin taking care of yourself first, there will be others who feel some type of way about it, and I’m going to tell you why.
Unfortunately, when we begin to place boundaries and make ourselves a priority, those who took advantage of our lack of boundaries, will suddenly feel threatened by the fact that we no longer accept certain behavior.
Furthermore, what happens when you see someone doing something you always wished you would do for yourself, but never do? You start feeling bitter!
So imagine seeing someone love themselves the way you wish you’d love yourself. Ideally, you’d think they would feel proud and supportive, especially if you’re someone they care about, but more often than not, feelings of resentment arise.
But you know what? If your self-love journey is making others’ toxicity bubble to the surface, it’s not your problem. You’re just serving as a trigger to some very necessary narratives that they need to acknowledge and figure out.
All in all, your self-love journey is yours. Your mental health is yours. Don’t let the way others project their own feelings of themselves onto you affect that.
Continue to flourish and bloom.